After working for several years with students who were previously married or in a serious relationship I have learn that these are top 2 reasons relationships fail. There may have been many things wrong with the relationship, but one or both of these two reasons were apparent early on. If they had heeded the warning, they could have avoided the relationship and long-term consequences … [Read more...]
How to Pick the Best Dating Website
There has been an explosion of online dating apps and websites over the last few years so it can be confusing which is the best dating app and best dating website to use. So instead of trying to name them all, let me give you some criteria to categorize them so you can tell what kind of site to use and what kinds to avoid. A Hookup or A Relationship? One way of looking at dating … [Read more...]
4 Things You Must Do Before Dating Online
Here are the 4 things you must do before dating online to prepare yourself to safely and quickly find the love you are looking for. What Are Your Relationship Goals? You need to define your relationship goals before you get online. Are you just looking to date someone new or different or even a hookup? Or are you looking for a long term monogamous relationship or marriage? You need … [Read more...]
How to Overcome Your Fear of Online Dating
As a dating coach, I still run across people that say they desperately want to meet someone, but in the next breath say they could never get online because they would feel like a loser or some other excuse. The only excuse I couldn’t refute was the attorney that worried it would be used against him in court by opposing counsel. For everyone else, here is what I tell my clients. Ten years ago … [Read more...]
Saying No With Class
We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it's our choice. — Iyanla Vanzant One of the most common challenges my dating clients face is with saying no, from declining requests for first or second dates, to invitations from friends or family to ending relationships. For some of my clients, the challenge with saying no is so significant that they … [Read more...]
Manifesting Love With Sand Painting
Don’t you love it when your life flows, when you catch every green light and there’s an awesome parking spot waiting when you get there? Do you ever wish your dating life could flow the same way, that the Universe would lead you to the perfect person for you? This flow is what many indigenous cultures sought to create with their spirituality. Creating this flow was often critical to their … [Read more...]
Manifesting Love With Fire
As humans we have a profound and ancient connection to fire, one of our earliest tools that forever set us apart from our primate cousins and started us on the long road to the stars. But fire is more than just a tool, it can move the soul and if you have ever stared in to a fire as it flickered and danced on a dark night, you may have glimpsed it spiritual power. Our ancestors knew this and … [Read more...]
The Ten Commandments of Dating With Children
As a child psychiatrist, I have treated a large number of children who were harmed by the poor choices their parents made while dating. I also saw parents do quite a few disturbing things when I was recently single and dating, but you don’t have to be a spinster to protect your children if you are smart about it. Here is my top 10 list of things parents and people dating parents should never … [Read more...]
Never Date These 3 Types of Men
Dating is a jungle filled with both danger and opportunity and it isn’t easy telling which is which. Knowing the specific dangers is key, because blanket judgments like “all men are cheaters” may protect you, but it will also block you from the opportunity of a wonderful relationship. After the essential ability to Say No with Class, being able to identify and defend your self from the bad … [Read more...]
Embracing Your Inner Bad Boy…Ethically
Have you ever wished you could attract women like bad boys do, but without actually having to become a bad boy? I had always struggled to attract women, but the thought being a jerk or manipulating and lying to people just didn’t sit well with me. So when I suddenly became single a few years ago I was determined to figure out the bad boy secret and see if there was a way to get bad boy results … [Read more...]